I read somewhere a while ago about forgiving and how it can set your life on a different path and free your soul.
I thought I had forgiven the person that hurt me the most but I have realised over the last few months that this isn’t true as his actions keep hurting me and I can’t seem able to forgive him for his behaviour. I know I have forgotten/blocked out a lot of memories but there are many that feel like they only occurred yesterday instead of 3 years ago.
It is also affecting our son and for that alone I can’t forgive him as he is too young to understand or realise how he is being manipulated by his father.
I want to forgive so that I can be a better person and mother but I am not sure I will ever forget and I think the two are meant to go hand in hand.
Can I do one without the other?
I found two quotes on the internet which I thought were quite apt to my situation.
“Forgiveness does not change the past but it does enlarge the future”
~Paul Boese ~
“Forgiveness is unlocking the door to set someone free and …… realising you were the prisoner!”
~ Max Lucado ~